If you’re a subscriber or have read any of my books, you know I’m a big fan of mentors. In fact, probably more than 25 people would fall into that category for me. Recently I read “The Mature Man: Becoming a Man of Impact,” by David Dewitt (please substitute person for man, since I deeply believe this advice applies equally to women). The concepts in the book are really relevant and powerful, although I did struggle with the presentation.

When I got to page 144, the author provided some really great support for seeking out mentors:

1. The term “mentor” comes from Homer’s epic “The Odyssey.” Before Ulysses went on a long journey, he chose a wise friend whose name was Mentor to guard, guide, and teach him. (Editor’s note: I didn’t know that!)
2. The author references a 22-year study that showed that 84 percent of those with mentors said they adopted at least some of the characteristics of their mentor.
3. According to the study, 87 percent of young adults expressed “positive” or “very positive” feelings about their mentors.
4. Although mentors are generally seen as temporary, the study indicated that 52 percent of the respondents reported that the relationship continued. As I’ve mentioned in the past, my mentor, Ken Kunkel, has advised me — and continues to do so — since 1970 (almost 55 years!).

Things a good mentor can teach you:

1. To take calculated risks.
2. To focus on your strengths.
3. To not worry about what others may think.
4. To follow your dreams.
5. To avoid wasting time (this is a big subject).
6. To become a giver.

In the past, I’ve mentioned a counselor who told me I have many mentors because I’m open to input. She went on to explain that many people aren’t like that.

So I ask: Are you open to input, even if it may hurt? If the answer is yes, I recommend seeking out a mentor or two.