In March, Barbara and I attended the Precision Metal Forming Association Annual Meeting. I have to say it was like attending a class reunion; we shared so many wonderful memories and had a chance to reconnect with some very successful business owners. The keynote speaker was Dr. Amber Selking, a mental performance coach, and she told many motivating stories. She’s a disciple of Carol Dweck, a Stanford University professor who coined the phrase “Growth Mindset.” I’ve written about Dweck before and have found that she may be the most quoted name in many of the books that I’ve read in the past decade.

I would highly recommend reading her book, “Winning the Mental Game.” She has worked with Brian Kelly, a former head coach at Notre Dame who’s now at Louisiana State University, and his football players. The foreword to her book is written by one of my favorite people, Lou Holtz.

I’ll keep this post brief and share three questions that Dr. Selking uses with all her athlete and business executive clients:

1. Why am I doing what I’m doing? (Purpose)
2. What do I want to accomplish from doing this? (Goals)
3. How do I want to be remembered? (Legacy)

I know what you’re saying: “Not another list!”

In my humble opinion, no matter who you are, if you can succinctly answer these three questions, and then align your daily behaviors to match/achieve them, you’ll win your personal Super Bowl.

One of my favorite writers, Matthew Kelly, likes to challenge his readers to become “the best version of themselves.” I think he would love Dr. Selking’s three questions.